Divorce. You would not want to wish this process on your
worst enemy. This week I had a very interesting discussion with a couple of
women about divorce. It was very liberating. So today I would like to take the
time and encourage anyone who has been through a divorce to keep your head up.
Divorce can often be referred to as an emotional and spiritual
death and funeral without the sympathy. I agree with this statement whole-heartedly! The loss that is ultimately suffered feels as
great as any physical loss to the person who is going through! But unfortunately, ONLY to the person who is actually
going through it! The world is still spinning to everyone else while their
world has stopped revolving.
The insensitivity of some individuals can be almost too much
to bare. However, here are several
tips to try to help someone who is going through a divorce to make their life a
little brighter:
1). Don’t say highly inappropriate things!-Either
you can help an individual or hinder them. Before you open your mouth make sure support and encouragement are the only
thing flying out of it. Culturally
ignorant opinions and other nonsense will usually set someone back. (Oohhhh
just wait until you read, “The Purple Legacies” and listen to the blissfully
ignorant things I was told.)
2). Offer your hand in friendship, love and
support.-Simply offering to take them out of the house by getting them out
of the regular everyday mode is key to the beginning of the healing process.
3). Treat people how you want to be treated. -No explanation needed on this one! Simply a biblical principle!
4). When in doubt, say nothing at all.-Remember silence is golden. In the book of Job, even his friends sat idle next to him for seven days without saying one word. Just their support was enough!
Encouraging people through the process of a divorce instead of discouraging
them is beneficial to your well-being also. Keep in mind that in life we know
where we have been but know not where we are going! Peace And Blessings Until Next Time!
With Love,
Danica
