MY TWO TRAYVON'S

The Trayvon Martin case has touched and or shocked each one of us. No matter who you are, you have been mentally or emotionally affected by the Trayvon Martin case. It has truly been a tragedy dramatically unfolding before our very eyes ever since we were made present of the gunshot heard around the world on February 26^th.

This case however affected me on a more personal level. I am a single mom with two boys, sixteen and nine years-old. Ever since this awful, heartbreaking story has come to light, I have been basically in mourning for not only Trayvon and his family, but also in mourning for the possible future of my children also, if society does not change it's views on minority males.

Every day when I look at my boys I wake up with a hopeful sense of reassurance they will grow up and be at the very least a positive, productive citizen in society. The fact is, this is the United States of America. We are a free nation where each person has a potential for greatness. I know being an African-american male, odds are already stacked against them. Whatever the case may be, there is a sense of hope when they wake up in the morning. There is a promising, optimistic chance they will be successful in life.

However, I now see that the hunt is on now more than ever before! The hunt was on for Trayvon and the hunt is on for my two boys also! They may never get a chance to live the life they deserve to live freely and fully because they are the prey. The fear of African-American males in society and the idealism of how they are portrayed beyond a shadow of a doubt are the predators. This beautiful, handsome young man Trayvon Martin, in the famous words of President Obama, “does look like my sons!” I recognized and always realized that “my two Trayvon’s” will now be scrutinized regardless of their accomplishments forevermore. I now know that "my two Trayvon’s" has even a lesser chance than what I originally thought to live “The Complete American Dream”. However, I thank God I am placing "my two Trayvon’s" in His hands and not just America’s hands!

Until next time Peace and Blessings!!!

EVICTION NOTICE OF THE HEAD AND HEART

EVICTION NOTICE OF THE HEAD AND HEART!!

This is for everyone whomever needed to give anyone an eviction notice of the head and heart due to a relationship ending!

My marriage of eight years recently ended after years of enduring mental and emotional abuse. Last year was such a year of complete transition for me. Unfortunately, you learn that transition can be beastly. However, no one else around you seems to get the memo! I felt broken down and defeated. I felt anesthetized and exhausted. Often times the appearance was that nobody actually cared. It appeared that life was to just go on as normal as can be. However, in my world nothing was normal. The pain in my spirit and soul had manifested itself into a long drawn out process that I just did not want to partake in.

So what did I do? I moved out of my house, quit my job and relocated my boys and I to another city! Did all of this rearranging my life after a failed relationship work? Not at first! The reason simply is that I tried to run from the problem, instead of facing the problem head on. I can tell you the best advice ever given to me in my entire life is that running never accomplishes anything. Why? Because the person we are running from is ultimately inside of ourselves buried deep in our head and heart. Until you come to terms with this aspect of a broken relationship ending, they will always be wherever you go!

Therefore, it was only one possible solution to this problem. Giving an eviction notice to my head and heart is what utterly brought me to a healing process. Now if you have ever suffered emotional abuse by anyone you know what long term scars and effects it has on oneself. The mental and emotional scars are long lasting and very burdensome. However, giving someone that much power over myself was the first mistake I made.

Now in turn, since I gave them power, I now had to give them an eviction notice because they were still taking up space in my head and heart. Since I let them move in, I had to throw them out. This eviction notice process consisted of just a period of ceasing! Ceasing all contact. Ceasing all negative thoughts of how I could not make it on my own. Ceasing all feelings of any kind toward them. Concentrating on God, my boys and myself.

Fast forward to 2012. What a difference a year makes! Which I now can inform you life is wonderfully beautiful! Please if you don't do anything else for yourselves this year, please hand out a couple of eviction notices of the head and heart to someone this year. Tell them to vacate the premises immediately!

Until next time, peace and blessings!